It always irked me to a certain degree when I saw over-indulgent parents. I’m not sure if it was because I was so “not-indulged” as a kid. But, you know, when you see the little girl in a fluffy, princess dress, wearing a birthday tiara, nearly lifted off of the floor with birthday balloons, and her parents are offering to buy her up to half of Walmart? – I just couldn’t do it.
I tend to swing to the other extreme. I’m pretty cheap when it comes to spending on my boys. Second or third-hand clothes are more than welcome here. I notice that I almost pride myself in hardly spending anything on them. After all, they’re just kids! They are not going to run my house, let alone determine any important life decisions.
But this morning, I read about another set of parents who were willing to do anything for their child.
Talking about the son of Zacharias and Elizabeth:
“John was the son of their old age, he was a child of miracle, and the parents might have reasoned that he had a special work to do for the Lord and the Lord would take care of him. But the parents did not thus reason; they moved to a retired place in the country, where their son would not be exposed to the temptations of city life, or induced to depart from the counsel and instruction which they as parents would give him…. They acted their part in developing a character in the child that would in every way meet the purpose for which God had designed his life…. They sacredly fulfilled their obligation…. ” CG 23.
Here is an example of parents “living” for their son. Allowing their child to dictate major life decisions. Doing anything to protect their child. Apparently waiting on their child, hand and foot. Have a backbone please! Exactly the kind of thing that would bother me, right?
What struck me in a profound way, is that I realized the difference between sacrificing all for personal motives and sacrificing all for Christ’s will to be done in the lives of our children. There is no hint of indulgence in this scenario. Rather, complete dedication, earnestness, and love towards a Cause greater than themselves. They gave all their human effort in raising their son to fulfill God’s special plan for his life. Nothing was taken for granted. And ultimately, this IS the perfect expression of love for their son. This is what I want.
So, I’ve decided to spend more. But I want to make it count. I want to be willing to do whatever it takes to ensure that we are on that narrow path – whether it be to move, stay, change jobs, cancel appointments, risk embarrassment and ridicule, buy that $500 Christian book set, and yes, even change who I am. It’s a radical thought. It sounds irresponsible. But I’m glad that Jesus is on my side every step of the way. This is His ingenious way of saving us and our children. And at the end when the Lord comes in the clouds of glory and we are standing on that day with our children, I know I will be among them that humbly exclaim that Heaven is cheap enough.
I was touched, deeply touched and inspired by your post Judy! 🙂 We share the same burdens sister! I am so with you! I’ve started the radical changes and is still on the path of progressing. Not an easy road to take but with God, on our side nothing can go wrong 🙂 Keep pressing on! Heaven is our reward!
thanks for the post, Judy! i made me think a lot…I need to do some changes too….blessings and keep up the good work.
Whaaaa?! The timeliness of this post is crazy to me. But not so crazy thinking about the awesome God we serve…So that passage was actually one of the first things that set in motion for me our current plans to move away from our little Babylon here in the citayyy (which we love, and which is perfect for city-slickin’ John and me) but I knew that my charge to protect and nurture my children in an environment that would not be so riddled w/ crime, violence, pollution was higher and more important than my cool urbane living.And I guess you the next part ;)It will all be worth it. Beautifully and thoughtfully written, Mama Judy. What a precious charge we have as parents! That ours may “not depart from it”.
Only the best from the Father to His children… and only the best for ours. Jude, thanks for your posts and dedication to sharing your thoughts. 🙂 My sister is a huge believer in giving the best to her children (she obsesses over product reviews and food.) She inspires me and so do you.